We think we understand, but we have such a limited perspective. God sees the big picture, and He promises to work all things out for the good of those who love Him.

Understanding the root of our behavior is understanding the motives in our hearts. We need to spend time looking beneath that surface sin and pull at the weed under it until we uncover the motive behind it.

We can still experience that peace and comfort when we are in the depths of a deep trial. Though our journey may be hard, suffering is absent if we are experiencing the joy that comes from being in the center of God’s will.

There is simply no denying the hard-to-accept, but crystal clear message of the Bible: we are our biggest problem.

If you are struggling in your marriage, perhaps it’s because God has allowed the conflict to reveal your sin. Know this—God chose your spouse specifically for you. He allowed the marriage because He has a plan in it for you.

If you want to know the true joy of a peaceful marriage, then you need to humble yourself. Stop looking at the sins of your spouse and take the time to look into your own heart.

Grace in marriage begins here. It begins with the acknowledgement that the problem isn’t what’s happening outside of me, it’s what’s happening inside of me.

We’re not blind to other people’s weaknesses, we are blind to our own. If we are to grow more like Christ, we must take to heart the things people see in us that we can’t see.