When one spouse is controlled by an irrational fear, it dominates conversations and impacts decisions. This takes a toll on the receiving spouse, breaks down communication, and causes relational strife.

Fear of the wrong things will keep you from becoming all God intends for you to be, and it will keep your marriage from becoming all that God intends for it to be for you. It will limit your potential and it will destroy your union.

Perfected love is not a feeling, it is action. So, if the Spirit is moving within us, we see it in action toward our spouse.

Because we have come to know and believe that the love God has for us is unwavering and relentless, constant and unchanging, unconditional and foundational, we can love our spouses well.

If we want to demonstrate the kind of refining love in our marriages God calls us to show, then we need to come back to this truth over and over again—we are a broken people in need of a Savior.

Every single word we say, every single action we take, represents God to the witnesses around us. Even when we are sinned against, we must keep this truth in the front of our minds.

Is there evidence of God’s Spirit in your marriage? He has given you of His Spirit—He has given you love and truth. Does His love and truth pour out of you?

Remembering the love God has for us can soften our hearts toward our spouses when we’re caught in those trying moments.

The mind has great power to remember what God has said about Himself and about us—that’s how we encourage His Spirit to grow within us, that’s how we find hope, that’s how we find love.

God is visible when we sacrifice something to demonstrate love; when the gain is only for the other person, never for ourselves.