Kindness is a tender heart and a nurturing spirit. When the Spirit fills us, our hearts become soft toward our spouses, and our desire is to bring them goodness.

When you notice the peace has been disrupted in your marriage, don’t ignore it or walk away from it. Pause and pray. Ask God to reveal to you where you need to confess and where you need to forgive, then ask Him to restore your relationship. He will.

We grow His Spirit by doing those things He calls us to do—spending time in the Word and in prayer, serving others, meeting with other believers in church and small group, storing His Word in our hearts. When we do these things, our fruits, or behaviors, will naturally change.

Scripture tells us joy is the supernatural delight in the person, purposes, and people of God. Notice the key word 'supernatural'—this means we cannot generate our own joy, only God can.

We are told in scripture they will know us by our love. We are to be the most loving people that the people in our lives know. Would your spouse consider you to be the most loving person they know?

As believers, we cannot trust reason more than we trust God, we cannot reject His truth when it doesn't make sense to us. We must accept there will be mysteries that will never be solved in our lifetime.

Our peace is determined by what we set our minds on. It’s not what’s happening to us that destroys our peace. It’s our thoughts about what’s happening that wreck us.

The reality is what we set our minds on determines life or death. Our emotions are governed in large measure by what we consider; what we dwell on determines our mood.

When our minds are set on the things of the world, we quiet the voice of the Spirit, and the world dictates our responses. We will justify why we do and say things according to the world’s standards rather than God’s standards.

If we are going to change our behavior and our responses in our marriages, then we need to start with our minds. We have to capture our thinking and make those thoughts obedient to Christ.