No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.1 Corinthians 10:13 ESV
Our God will provide a way of escape when we are walking through trials. The problem is we often miss the way of escape, and so our trials continue. We can be so wrapped up in our plan of escape, or the way we see He should rescue us, that we don’t see His plan of escape. The way of escape is most often not to make the problem or problems go away, yet that’s what we pray when we’re struggling. Your marriage is struggling, you’re frustrated with the way our spouse is responding to life or to us, maybe they are not a believer or are not acting like they believe, and we pray for a change in their character. Perhaps the financial strain you’ve been enduring is taking a toll on your relationship, so you pray for relief to come in the way of a new job or some other windfall. Maybe you’ve been trying to start a family, and the monthly failure is becoming too much to bear, so you are praying for a miracle. These prayers become our desperate pleas, and we grow frustrated with God because He’s not providing the way of escape that we want. We want a rescue and immediate end to the struggle, but that’s not usually His plan.
God wants us to walk through the struggle, with Him by our side, to show us His sovereignty. He will allow you to walk through trials, even your greatest fears, to show you His faithfulness and His glory. The way of escape that God wants to provide is for you to find freedom from the thoughts that trap you—the fears and the anxieties that mount up because we imagine a future that doesn’t exist yet. He doesn’t always want to rescue you from your struggle because it’s in the struggle that He grows our trust in Him. He wants you to walk through it. When we lay down our plan, and we trust His, when we open our hearts and allow God to reveal the blind spots, we find the way of escape He’s providing.
God has a purpose in our trials. You are walking through these difficult times for a reason—He wants to refine you. He wants to continue to grow you to be more and more like Him, but He can’t do that when there is fear or pride in your heart. One of the ways of escape He offers comes when you open your heart and allow Him to reveal that sin to you. Trust Him and let Him show you what He’s trying to show you, and you will find an end to your trials. Believe that He has a plan for you and your marriage, and stay in the fight. Consider less what He needs to do in your spouse’s heart, and focus more on what He wants to do in your heart. Lay down your expectation that He will rescue you from this trial with an immediate change to your spouse or your situation, and allow His way of escape humble your heart into submission.
Press on ~ you are loved 💗